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3 Reasons Your Client is Resisting Setting Goals

Posted by on Aug 5, 2013 in Coaching, Fear, Goals, Ownership, Resistance, Victim | 0 comments

If you are a coach, one of your first priorities is probably helping your client establish some goals. Well, this isn’t always an easy task and you may run into some resistance. That’s ok. Resistance happens at times. Don’t take it personally. But it’s helpful to know why your client may seem unwilling to buckle down. So let’s look at 3 reasons why your client could be dragging his feet in the goal setting department.

  1. Victim Stance – In most cases, clients are coming to you because they are tired of being victims of their circumstances. But the victim role is comfortable. The victim role allows the client to place the blame for all of their problems on others, rather than take responsibility for their own actions.  Sometimes, a client can play the victim for so long, they forget they have some control in what happens in their lives.  But setting goals forces a client to move beyond the victim role.
  2. Fear – Let’s face it. Change is scary. For a client to set a goal means that he will be taking a risk. For the client to move out of his safety zone, he must come to the belief that the gains outweigh the risks, even if the process is a painful one.  For example, a client who is complaining about not liking his current career may be reluctant to explore other options for fear of losing the status he has attained in his current field.  Even though the client may be unhappy in his current field, he is familiar with is role and he feels safe.  To consider the possibility of trying something new can be stressful.  It is the coach’s job to help the client see the benefits of change and establishing goals.
  3. Lack of Ownership – Setting goals means the client will have to make decisions and own them.  Clients often come in with the misconception that the coach is going to fix their problems and the coach is going to make all of the decisions for them.  In reality, the client is the one who must make the decision to change and decide what those changes will be.  The coach can then help facilitate the process.  If the client must make the decisions, then that means the client must take responsibility for the outcome.  This can be a scary proposition for the client, because it means that they cannot blame anyone but themselves if goals aren’t met. 

There may be other reasons, but these are the ones I usually run into when working with clients. The trick is to recognize where your client is coming from and address it head on. As long as you are doing a thorough assessment at the beginning, these issues should become apparent fairly quickly. Remember that clients want to feel understood. They want to know that you get it. A little reassurance can go a long while in the early stages of building rapport with a client. Most importantly, be sure your client is really ready for change, and that the client is aware that goal setting is a part of the process. Once you address these issues, goal setting should be a lot easier going forward. Happy Coaching!

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6 Months Left

Posted by on Jul 1, 2013 in Dreams, Fears, Focus, Goals, Plans | 0 comments

It’s July 2013. Six months have passed since the beginning of the year. Chances are you started 2013 with good intentions. You had goals of losing weight, starting a new career, or spending more time with family. Then something happened. Life happened. You got distracted. You lost focus. Now it’s time to regroup, to get back in the game.

You say you had goals for this year, but did you have a plan? Goals without plans are dreams. Dreams are nice, but ethereal. A plan makes things concrete. You probably didn’t tell anyone about your goals. Or if you did, you didn’t have someone who was willing to hold you accountable when you were getting off track. Change that right now. Find a trusted friend, one who is honest and doesn’t mind calling you out when you get off track.

You have 6 months left in 2013. Six months to come up with a plan and execute accordingly. Six months to face your fears. Six months to take that leap of faith. Six months to make the changes you need to make. Six months to make it count. Let’s go!

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5 Things You Need to Do to Become Unstuck

Posted by on May 9, 2013 in Change, Coaching, Goals, Groundhog Day, Passion, Risk, Unstuck | 0 comments

Remember Groundhog Day? The movie came out back in 1993, but surprisingly still resonates today. You have a guy who continues to experience the same day over and over again. Until he began examining his life and make some changes. He got out, met people, helped others, and became open to new experiences. Maybe you’re feeling like everyday is Groundhog Day. Everything is the same. You feel stifled by the monotony of it all. So here are 5 steps to help rescue you from your own personal Groundhog Day.
  1. Identify your passions by answering the following questions:
    What do you love to do?
    What gives you fulfillment and a sense of belonging?
    What inspires you?
    What do you need for your life to be meaningful?
  2. Identify goals that align with your passions. Ex: Have a passion for food and can barely boil water? Set a goal of taking a basic cooking class. Have a passion for food and travel? Set a goal to experience the cuisine in the country of your choice.
  3. Make small changes over time. When you have been stuck in a rut for awhile, change can be scary. So small changes, will help you become more comfortable with bigger changes you want to make down the line.
  4. Be open to risk. People often find it difficult to get unstuck because being stuck is comfortable.  Seeking change requires taking a risk.
  5. Help others. You may not be remembered for the job you had or how much was in your bank account. But you will be remembered for how much you gave back. Also, if you spend some time, (not all, but some), giving back and focusing on others, then you won’t be in your own head as much. You won’t have to listen to the voice that say you can’t make a difference, because you are. Even if it’s just spending time with an older person or a child. You are valuable and you give value to others.
Now you need to take action. You can read all the books, listen to all the podcasts, attend all the self-help rallies in the world. But no one can make you become unstuck. If you are interested in becoming unstuck and moving forward in life, I have several packages available to help you along. Contact me for a free sample coaching session @ 321-800-8520 or email me at truechangelifecoach@gmail.com today!
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FOCUS

Posted by on Apr 10, 2013 in Fears, Focus, Goals, Perseverance | 0 comments

Here is a quick video on focus. Tyler Perry discuss how he became successful. According to him, it comes down to 2 things: The Grace of God and Focus. I think another factor is perseverance. Mr. Perry was able to rise to the top because he followed the path with focus. He was not deterred by failure or the disbelief of others. He kept striving for his goal. What goals are you striving for today? Are you focused? Are you distracted by fear? Are you discouraged by failure? Don’t be. Just remember to stay FOCUSED.

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